Ho tya economists, who are guided by the behaviorist approach, view regret as a feeling, which causes anxiety to all traders from time to time, psychological studies show, that some people are more prone to, to experience this feeling, compared to other people. All traders are upset, after a wrong trade decision, which could have been avoided, however, some players blame themselves regardless of the circumstances. After that, how such players will miss a big market move or get a big elk, they begin to analyze their actions and blame themselves for, that they did. They want to go back in time., do everything in a new way, they can't stop in any way, calculating, what did they do wrong?.
How to overcome feelings of regret? It all depends on, how big a problem it is for you. If you are guided in your life by the principle “It’s easy, easily gone ", then it will be easy for you to step over the consequences of wrong decisions. You can tell yourself the following: “Everyone makes mistakes. Losses are an indispensable element of work in the markets. I will win back this money again ". It's much easier to get over trouble, when your deposit is in good condition, but, if you already have a large drawdown, making it much harder. Losses and missed opportunities for deals are being experienced huh, when your business is poor.
If you are inclined to, to blame yourself for bad decisions, it will be especially difficult for you to overcome feelings of regret. For some people, this model of behavior dates back to distant childhood.. Some will give birth to spruce, especially strict, pointed out to the children every mistake they made, claiming, that this mistake could have been avoided and that the mistake was their fault. In this way, they made children feel guilty. When such a child turns into an adult, he can automatically transfer this behavior model to his adult mistakes. It is very difficult to cultivate the principle “it is easy to come, easily gone ", when you are too critical of yourself. In this case, it is very useful to use the technique, which psychologists call "cognitive restructuring".
Using this trick, a person can be aware of their "internal conversation" or "automatic thoughts", who hide behind regret. For example, such: “I must be perfect. All failures are my fault. I deserve to be punished for my mistakes ". To resist these thoughts, which appear constantly, it is imperative and deliberate to prove their insolvency. For example, the mayor, as an illustration of this approach (just one of the illustrations) can you imagine a person, which writes down a set of rebuttable judgments on a card, like the following: “I don't have to be perfect. Sometimes bad luck happens., this is not my fault. Everybody makes mistakes. I shouldn't blame myself for no reason. ". If you read the card once, maybe, it won't help. Old habits are hard to break. You will have to reread these spells over and over., to learn a new model of behavior. (Some readers may not understand the idea., the above. All of these statements are not "vows", who can reprogram your "unconscious". Instead, I suggest using cognitive strategies to change your thinking style.). It is important to understand, that it is very difficult to get rid of patterns of behavior, which were formed many years ago and which have been constantly working for many years. Maybe, education new thinking patterns will take you a while, but through practice it is possible. The key to success is identifying your own belief system., which requires change, and practice of a new style of thinking with the aim of permanently changing the old system.
Regardless of, often or rarely you feel regret, it is very important to first identify the problem and take specific steps to cultivate the mood, which will allow you to trade freely, creative and profitable.
